Often when my five-year-old goes to bed, I tell him a made up story that includes some sort of lesson that a five-year-old needs to hear. In that same sense, I often think of the story of the butter knife and the screwdriver in relation to finding your calling in life. I guess this is a story for people a little older than five, but bear with me.
I may be a bit of a storyteller, but I am not a handyman. On more than one occasion when trying to turn a small screw in, I'll reach for a butter knife instead of going downstairs to get the straight blade screwdriver. Sure, it sometimes works, although not very well, but if like in my childhood stories, the butter knife and screwdriver could talk I think they'd say something like this:
Butter Knife - " This is painful work. I sure don't enjoy this. Sure, I can do it, but it is not what I was made for. I want to spread butter or cut bread because that is what I love to do and what I'm best at doing."
Screwdriver - "I am bored to death watching the butter knife get all the fun. I was made to turn that screw in and I would love to be doing it. Come on storyteller, use me, use me."
Ok, so what's this silly story all about? It is about our children who need to understand how they were made before they jump in and pursue a field of study or career that might lead them to sound like our two story characters. God made each of our children for specific purposes. He crafted them with certain gifts, personality mixes, life experiences and desires to do things unique to their individuality. He has a plan and purpose for each person that is indicated partially through the way He designed them. So often our children can feel forced by outward pressures like needing to "make money" or "impress others" to pursue a direction in life that will set them up to be an unfulfilled butter knife or screw driver because they aren't pursuing what God has made them for and called them to. A great tool to assess some of how God designed your teen can be found at th e link below. There are other assessments online as well. It doesn't take much time to take a career interest test which will ask a series of questions and then, based on your answers, suggest career paths that may be right for your teen. These assessments are a great way to at least start a great discussion with your student about their future.
At Eagle Heights Christian school, we are very concerned with helping our high school students find their unique God-design and partnering with parents to point their children in the right career path direction.
At Eagle Heights Christian School, we understand the importance of finding the right education for your children. We know that this is a decision that is not taken lightly by godly parents. We want to help. We have worked to compile the right questions to ask when choosing a Christian school. We've included the type of answers you should hear at a high quality institution.
Regarding Spiritual values
What observable outcomes of faith and practice do you want to see in your students? How do you observe them? Are certain denominations or practices promoted or restricted?
The best practice answer you should hear:
The idea of “observable outcomes” is important. Of course a Christian school wants “godly, Christ-honoring” graduates. But how do they measure their success? Do they know what percentage of their graduates go on to Christian colleges? (Granted, that is not God’s will for every student.) How many are involved in churches of like faith five years after graduation?
Regarding Peer climate
Are students respectful toward each other and toward the adult staff?
Are they kind?
The best practice answer you should hear:
If you are enrolling a student in kindergarten . . . you need to attend a high school athletic event. At least visit the cafeteria during high school lunch time. In these less structured moments, the behavior and attitudes of students indicate something about what the school really produces. Caution: you may be seeing the exception or the newcomer, but observe.
Regarding Personal outcomes
What kind of character does the administration hope to develop?
The best practice answer you should hear:
The term servant leadership is a very good answer, but it has become trite. Consider the following analytical questions.
What kind of character awards are important here? (These may be awards like “servant leader,” or “student of the year” (or week, etc.), or “most valuable player” in sports.) What is required to earn that recognition?
The follow-up is what you are working toward: Tell me about some students who have earned that award recently.
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We will also give you the best practice answers that you should hear. In addition, you'll benefit from 10 suggestions to consider when selecting a Christian school. This helpful guide has been used by many families in their decision-making process. We hope you'll find it beneficial too.
Part of our philosophy at Eagle Heights Christian school is that rules without a relationship can end up causing a rebellious attitude. The answer is not to have a Laissez-faire type system, but to have rules coupled with strong relationship-based discipleship. We strive to build relationships with our students and not just force a set of rules on them. Especially as students move into the junior high and high school years, we want to help them understand the biblical principles behind the rules. We want them to understand the reason for the rule and answer the questions they may have regarding our standards of conduct. When they fail, and most will at some time, we want to lovingly help restore them. Discipleship demands time and Christian love. We hire faculty and staff who are committed to the discipleship-relationship building process, not those who are just there to enforce the rules.
We believe the same is true in our homes. We want to partner with you to make that happen in your family.
Loving relationships are the glue that hold families together too and help smooth over the arguments, struggles and growing pains that every family faces during those growing up years. The principles of the Bible apply at home just as they do in relationships at work, school and church. Principles of love in 1 Cor. 13 such as thinking no evil, assuming the best, not holding grudges etc. need to be adhered to. There are many other relationship principles as well such as the principles of reconciliation found in Matthew 5 and other places. We can study principles such as "Don't let the sun go down on your wrath..." (Eph. 4:26) and so many more that can and should be found. These biblical principles apply at home and at school.
Take time to build relationships. Find common ground and utilize it. Go out for coffee or shakes (food is almost always common ground) watch sports together, learn to play a video game. Perhaps you hunt or fish, sew or bake, whatever you can find to engage in with the goal of building the relationship, do it!
Don't only spend time when there is an issue. Make "deposits" in their lives as often as you can by spending that time with them, saying "I love you" or sending them a text from across the room letting them know you're proud of them. These deposits allow you to make "withdrawals" and yet not damage the relationship when there are disagreements or discipline issues.
If rules and regulations are enforced in a student's life at home or at school without an on-going love infused relationship, rebellion will almost always be the result.
We want to partner with parents in helping young people grow up in a loving atmosphere of structured, discipleship infused relationships.
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At Eagle Heights Christian School, we teach that our great country was founded upon a strong belief in and reliance on God. In many ways this documented fact has been attacked and suppressed in recent years.
We have included a speech from Benjamin Franklin which was given during the Constitutional Convention in 1787 just a short 11 years after the Declaration of Independence was signed as an example. In this speech, we see a glimpse of the dependence many of our Founders had upon God. We can also see a reason to teach about this in American history.
This is not to say that every Founder was a true believer in Jesus Christ or that there was not religious controversy even then. In fact, this speech from Franklin is surrounded in a bit of controversy itself. (Click here to read about it.) America's heritage includes sinful failures of Christians as well and we teach about these failures in the context of a Biblical worldview. We teach that mankind is in need of a Savoir due to their sinful natures. We teach that men even at their best are just men. We believe and teach that we should learn from the good and the bad of our American history and get involved in government as God allows.
We realize that more and more there is an effort to expunge the clear fingerprints of a Christian heritage in our nation's historical narrative. We desire to keep that narrative as part of the scope and sequence of teaching American history. We point our students through their textbooks, research projects and even field trips to clear evidence of our nation's godly heritage. You can see some of the resources we utilize below.
Now, here is the quote from Franklin and a link to the whole speech. These types of speeches, quotes and the context in which they were given are so important for our students to learn from.
Benjamin Franklin's Entire Speech before the Constitutional Congress 1787 - Click here to read.
Click here to download a free PDF digital copy of The Papers of James Madison which include this speech. The is a free book provided by Google.
If you are interested in this type of Christian education for your student, please click here to contact us. We also invite you to download a copy of our free guide to help you ask the right questions as you visit various Christian school options or visit our Prospective Parent pages.
You can also read other articles of interest below.
Another resource we use as we teach and research American History is Wall Builders List of Historical Documents - Click to Visit.
Watch this short video clip and click here to download or purchase the whole DVD video called, "Americas Godly Heritage"
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Will your child grow up loving God and loving people? How will they view culture, politics, hardships and material wealth? How will the interpret all they face in life? It all depends on worldview. For the Christian family, teaching a Christian worldview is paramount in the educational process. It undergirds everything else that is taught. It is one of the main reasons Christian education is so vitally important.
What is a worldview?
A worldview is the composite of all the beliefs and assumptions that direct how a person views life and, therefore, how a person chooses to live. Our most important beliefs relate to God. If people believe that God is merciful and gracious, that leads them to seek a relationship with God. If they believe that their god or “god-like important idea,” like evolution, is indifferent or cruel, they do not seek a relationship, but seek to appease that god or to find relief or happiness in something else.
A worldview has innumerable other components:
“Worldview” is not just an abstract philosophical topic. It is practical. It makes a difference every day. A worldview does not just affect your child; in a very real sense it is your child. That last statement seems a little extreme, but I am not the first to say it. Proverbs 23:7 says, “As he thinketh in his heart, so is he.”
Our “heart” is the seat of the thoughts (Genesis 6:5), the emotions (Genesis 6:6), and the will (Daniel 1:8). The heart is the place of belief and unbelief (Romans 10:9; Psalm 14:1). The biblical word heart is very much related to the word worldview. Thoughts, beliefs, and emotions shape the will, and the will is manifested in how we choose to live. God commands, “Keep thy heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life” (Proverbs 4:23). Certainly, parents are charged to protect the hearts of their children. This is the essence of shaping their developing worldview.
What does an individual’s worldview affect?
OK, not quite everything, but most of the important things in life. Here are a few important areas that will be affected by your child’s worldview:
Jerry Wass, biblical counselor and Christian school administrator, says that you know that you have succeeded as a parent when you see your children raising their children for the Lord. Raising them “for the Lord” means helping them to develop a biblical worldview.
How is a worldview developed?
A worldview is not something that a child receives on his or her eighteenth birthday. It is forged one interaction at a time, starting before the child even understands words. By the age of five, the basic ideas are set, but they are continually being developed in further detail and revised by new input. There is a major time of reevaluation beginning in the teen years and continuing through the early 20’s. This is the time when the capacity for higher-level reasoning is coming to maturity. The individual reevaluates many of his or her assumptions about life and either solidifies them as his or her own or rejects them. This is a crucial time in each person’s life.
How does Eagle Heights Christian School help you shape your child’s worldview?
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The home is the primary institution for building Christian worldview. Ephesians 6 and Colossians 3 discuss the nurturing of children in the context of family. God works through His established lines of authority.
The church is also established directly by God “for the perfecting of the saints . . . unto the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ” (Ephesians 6: 12-13). These “saints” include the children of the congregation.
But parents are allowed to call in helpers to the task. The main point of Galatians 4 is that the Old Testament law was designed to teach us our need for God’s grace. However, it makes that point by an analogy which assumes that the role of the “school teacher” is right and proper:
Now I say, That the heir, as long as he is a child, differeth nothing from a servant, though he be lord of all; But is under tutors and governors until the time appointed of the father.
Eagle Heights Christian school will help you develop in your child a Christian worldview that will stand in this age which attacks those principles from every side. Here’s how:
Eagle Heights Christian School exists for no other reason than to help parents train up their children in God’s way. That is, we are here to help you develop a Christian worldview in your child.
We would enjoy being a partner with you in developing a Christian worldview for your children. Contact us for a visit. You can also download our Christian School Selection Guide below which will help you ask the right questions as you visit various school options.